Went on a non-date bike ride with a guy that I've been going on dates with that doesn't like to call our biking dates "dates". What classifies a date as a date? I don't think it depends on whether you dress up or wear makeup or go to dinner or what you do - I think it has to do with whether both people go with the intention of getting to know each other and perhaps thinking of developing a relationship... no?
So, we biked about 15 super-duper tough miles, very hilly terrain, dirt roads and paved road, in an area called Sugarloaf mountain - it is privately owned but the owners are sharing it with the public, maintaining it and everything - how nice is that? Those were some tough hills, man! I honestly thought several times I'd have to stop to take a breather, but pushed on and made it without stopping! I need to get clipless pedals and bike shoes - my running shoes are not doing the trick in these tough bike rides. Maybe a road bike too...
To all of you married people - stay married! Dating sucks! :) Some people like to go out with only one person at a time and see them very often and e-mail and call all the time... so you're basically boyfriend/girlfriend since pretty early on. That used to be the way I understood dating, but then I got advice from friends that most people don't do things that way, that most people go out with multiple people, so you only see each other one or maybe two times a week for a short period of time - and they don't call or e-mail too often. After a couple of months, you can have the "exclusivity" conversation... That's ok too... The problem is that you never really know which "type" of dater you're seeing, and you don't want to intrude in their lives too much or seem too eager by asking them... so you make assumptions, and if they're wrong... you're in trouble... Definitely not the same as dating when you're younger... it seemed so much easier! You liked a boy, flirted a little, he asked you if you wanted to be his girlfriend, and there, you were dating! Everything gets more complicated as you get older.
Nuff of that... I'll probably try a short run/walk this evening to see how my shins feel. Thankfully they don't hurt at all when I bike. |