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Location:

Rantoul,IL,

Member Since:

May 12, 2008

Gender:

Female

Goal Type:

Marathon Finish

Running Accomplishments:

1/2 marathon  1:43:09--Illinois Marathon, April 2013

10K: 46:50--Safe Kids Run in Crystal Lake Park, April 2010

5K: 22:07--Jingle Bell Run, December 2009

Short-Term Running Goals:

Do another marathon AFTER GOOD TRAINING

 

1/2 marathon in 1:41 or under

 

Break Burt's 5K PR by 1 second

 

10K in 46:00 or under

 

Long-Term Running Goals:

Keep encouraging my family in their development of a healthy lifestyle

 

God willing, I will run until the end.

Personal:

I run with God. I use my running time to contemplate, to pray and to listen for His call. I'm married to a non-runner, but a supportive one, and we have four children.

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Miles:This week: 0.00 Month: 0.00 Year: 0.00
Iso Lifetime Miles: 133.20
Slow milesFast milesTotal Distance
3.000.003.00

Just an easy 3.  Nothing remarkable.

This week has been a little hectic.  Caleb was sick Monday and Tuesday, and when I got back to school, my sub had not really followed my lesson plans (which makes me a little mad, but they were complicated).  So I had to reteach some stuff and it throws my whole schedule off. 

I need some advice from anyone who has it:

My SIL has been battling breast cancer since last April.  She finished chemo last month and is currently cancer-free.  However, she still has to have her ovaries removed, wait a month, then have 6 weeks of radiation and then have reconstructive surgery after another month or so.  And all this has been delayed because she currently has pneumonia. 

And for some reason, she has latched onto a statistic that isn't accurate anymore, that she has a 50% chance of surviving over 5 years (except I think she views it as a 50% chance of dying).  No amount of talking can convince her that the statistic is not correct.

She's fighting depression.  Don't know if she's doing anything for it (or even if she can right now), but that's beside the point. 

I'd like to extend a nice gesture towards her.  My brother intimated that just taking her to lunch would be enough to help cheer her a little, but I was trying to figure out something else to do.  I'm not one for grand gestures, but lunch seems to fall flat. 

Anyone who has been in her situation or mine have any ideas?

Comments
From Stacy on Thu, Mar 10, 2011 at 10:05:03 from 97.114.169.217

Prayers for your SIL. She is going through so much right now. Attitude is so important and she is obviously really struggling. Who wouldn't be? Like you I am not good at grand gestures either. It is hard to know what is best. Tara's friend's mom is very independent and kept things to herself. She did not want people fussing over her.

Last winter I sent her a card every week just to let her know I was thinking about her. I know the church came in once a week and fixed dinner for the family and cleaned the house.

We lost Ron's niece last year to ALS. She had a friend that came in every day for 2 or 3 hours and just sat with his niece. They watched movies and her friend just talked.

Hope your SIL is able to overcome the negative and focus on the positive. Prayers for you and your family also. It can be such a helpless feeling. Sorry, I did not mean to write a novel. :)

From SlowJoe'sGrl on Thu, Mar 10, 2011 at 14:53:36 from 184.79.24.255

Joe sent me over here thinking I might have some advice to share. My mom is battling stage IV colon cancer. It's 1.5 yrs since her diagnosis. For my mom, that same statistic is 17% chance of a 5 year survival. She was in remission for awhile and it did come back.

Yes, those statistics are old. At the same time, I doubt she will listen. My mom is also very despressed. She tries not to be, but you can only cover that up so much.

My advice would be to treat her normally. Take her to lunch, and do it again and again. Talk to her about normal everyday things unless she wants to talk about the cancer. Don't ignore the cancer either, but just try to be happy about regular things with her. Give her reasons to celebrate life. Call her often just because.

Anyway, I think the best grand gesture you can give is your ear - even when she's being depressed.

From Tracy on Thu, Mar 10, 2011 at 17:18:02 from 173.23.75.96

Thank you much, ladies. This does really help me a lot.

From april27 on Fri, Mar 11, 2011 at 22:47:17 from 99.188.251.180

I would say if you get tired of eating--pedicures, movie nights, baking and then more eating.

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